Now that you are back at home, you must get adjusted and get use to the new normal. Understand that you have gone through the hardest part already, the loss of your child. The future will not be smooth sailing but you will make it through

My loss is fairly new, however I find many people commenting on my strength to cope. I don’t see myself as coping. I see myself as adjusting to my new normal. The word Adjustment means -the act of adjusting; adaptation to a particular condition, position, or purpose. Dictionary.com  In life we constantly make adjustments. Your particular condition is your new normal for now. How you get to the next adjustment is up to you. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Here are some of the key things I still do to adjust to my new normal

Remember that you did nothing wrong, do not sulk in blame. Instead find comfort in prayer. If you are not religious then find comfort in conversations with your angel.

If I did nothing else in my day I made strong efforts to at least do those three. The trick to the goal list is once you’ve done a basic 3 normal daily activities; you continue to add normal daily activities

If you need a moment to cry, scream, yell or vent, take that moment. Find a safe place and do what you need to do, but pick yourself back up, or with the help of someone close if needed and continue the rest of your day. It’s ok to take many moments in one day, just remember to pick yourself back up.

Try to smile and laugh. Many times people feel like if something bad happens you must sew your lips shut. Do not feel guilty about smiling or laughing at something funny. Grieving doesn’t have to be sad 24/7

Keep in mind that your baby is not in any pain, trouble or distress.

Start a blog, or diary of your story. Make a scrapbook for your baby, those take hours and will be a wonderful memory and keepsake item